I have been thinking a lot lately about how there isn't an actual manual for parenting, and how we all parent different, and thats OK!! We are all raising different little humans and they all need different types of love and care, and after deciding that I am okay with NOT trying to be "perfect" I finally come to the realization that I am a bad mom, but in the best way. I used to spend all my time making sure that the kids were reading enough hours a night, that whatever was on their tablets was educational, and making sure that their meals were balanced... which I still believe that I (we) should be doing, but I am no longer beating myself up over grilled cheese 4 times a week or using the TV to entertain my children to get things done... don't lie, we have all done it!
I'm a bad mom because my 16 month old knows how to find YouTube on my phone and he also knows how to skip the adds.
I'm a bad mom because I told my son that it was pizza day at school because I didn't want to make his lunch, but he never complained that he was served Teriyaki dippers... and what the hell are teriyaki dippers? He didn't say anything and I didn't ask!
I'm a bad mom because I do a secret happy dance when someones practice or game gets canceled! (2 kids are in 3 different sports and we do that 5-6 times a week)
I try and meal prep, and I really do eat the meal prep food... because you know that i've been working on losing 30 lbs for like 3 years, but then I will eat a bag of chips and watch Grey's Anatomy during nap time! Sorry, but not so sorry...
I'm a bad mom because I have thrown away birthday invites that come home from school before Blake or Luke have seen them.
I'm a bad mom because I have made my kids grilled cheese for breakfast before... many times.
do fruit rollups count as a fruit serving?
Oh, I'm a really bad mom because Blake was complaining of headaches and I told him to just drink more water.. this went on for a few months, he fell behind in reading, and come to find out...he needed glasses (parenting fail)
I'm a bad mom because Josh was throwing a fit that he wanted my glass of water, so I finally just gave it to him knowing very well that it was going to end up all down the front of himself... and then when it did, he screamed, and I laughed!
I know that I have my "bad mom" moments... we all do things that aren't perfect to get through the day, but that doesn't mean that we don't love our kids to pieces. No one can be perfect all the time, and there is so much fun in the imperfections. I'm one lucky lady to have a rad group of chicas around to validate my bad mom moments with... or that show up with coffee at 9am just because sometimes moms need that to get through the day. With all this mom shaming I see on social media, it makes me realize that I need to do more to help my mama friends, because without them, I would be up shit creek! And if you see a mama bear that looks like she needs some help, don't ask, just do it, because a lot of the time, we are all too proud to accept. (but you already knew that) ;)
Oh, and one more bad mom moment... I just remembered that one time, I took the kids to the YMCA and dropped them off at the child watch so I could workout... but I didn't work out... I went upstairs, found a quiet corner and played candy crush.... for a whole 45 minutes HAHAHA